When faced with an ending: Do you fight? Or flow?

Endings are part of life. Yet, when the tides of change rise, few of us dive into the surf headlong. More often, we’ll weather the storm. Strive to stabilize. We may even swim against the current.

“Every path has its puddle”  – Proverb

Sometimes indeed, the turbulence is temporary. Other times, the blustering tells of the hurricane to come.

Endings as wake-up calls

When our soul wants to get our attention, it may whisper. If we’re not tuned in, then it may lovingly create for us massive wake-up calls that we can no longer ignore.

These are the types of endings that descend out of nowhere, shattering our lives like a thunder clap. External forces appear to be the culprit. Or were the signs there all along? These are the jobs that we should’ve left years ago. Or the relationships. Or the health-symptoms we chose to ignore.
 
Endings as forgiveness

Some endings slap us. Some are conscious and kind. Others fade away, leaving us haunted.

“Everything. Everyone. Everywhere. Ends.”  – HBO series series: Six Feet Under

Relationships may end permanently, or [I believe] until our next incarnation. Or they may die in their current form – so that they can be re-born. With each, we are called to explore the complex layers of our hearts. Our ability to forgive. Our ability to flow.

Endings such as death beyond our control, may usher in dark nights of the soul. What we can we do today? Tend to those relationships we have. Ask: Are we okay? If not: Are we complete? If tension or separation prevents asking in person, ask anyway. Listen for the answers.

Endings as transformation

I’ve found tools like astrology and numerology helpful in indicating areas of life ripe for new beginnings. These esoteric tools have helped me avoid, or bounce back quickly from clock-stopping ‘wake-up calls’.

Speaking of new beginnings, what do you know about the Scorpio? Sexy? Intense? Wears black? Yes. It also symbolizes death and re-birth.

Scorpio is also something else. It’s healing and transformative. It ‘takes out the garbage’ and discards what no longer works. Moondance is a Scorpion book, for example, written when I was navigating the currents of profound inner change. My world hasn’t been the same since.

“The tragedy of life is not that it ends so soon, but that we wait so long to begin it.” – W.M. Lewis

As part of the normal course of life, a time may come (again?) when your beliefs are no longer working for you. Often this feels like a personal crises. Everything we previously stood for is suspect! However, we own our beliefs – they don’t own us. At any time, you can choose to end the ones that prevent you from growing into who you really are… and who you want to become.

Endings as evolution

Sometimes, as with many things in life, endings are a catalyst for evolution. Personally, I believe that the yawning gap between philosophic views in the world will continue to widen, just as the inevitable tension this creates will escalate. My thoughts? Perhaps it’s the all or nothing win-lose philosophies which must die. Said outcome? Still emerging.

Endings as dream fulfilment

If your soul [insert your own word] really, really wants you to experience something new, the signs will surround you. You are always at choice. Your answer will carry weight. Your silence will, too. So will your ambivalence.

“Desire is the starting point of all achievement, not a hope, not a wish, but a keen pulsating desire which transcends everything.” – Napoleon Hill

We rarely dive in happily to endings. But when faced with a rising tsunami of change, we can choose to fight or to flow. At fight, we endanger our health, drain and harden our hearts and say ‘flick you’ to our souls. At flow, we summon great courage. When we do, we find that the waters do recede, and in time, our shores become honed, open and receptive. We’ve learned to allow.

“Go for it now. The future is promised to no one.” – Wayne Dyer

Allow yourself to be nudged toward a way of life you’ve always wanted, but has always eluded you.

Allow yourself to be drawn to people whom you may grow to love, or to deepen the connections you have.

Allow yourself to be ushered into a new way of living that is fulfilling beyond your wildest imaginings.

Allow endings to help you transform decades of ‘what if…’ and ‘if only’ into ‘OK then! I guess it’s now…’

Over my life, I’ve honoured endings many times, in many ways. I’m planning to say goodbye yet again, the result of seeds planted almost 18 months ago. A new beginning of sorts. I’m excited about my new direction! I’m looking forward to sharing more in the fall.

Until then, honour your tides. Follow your currents. For at the mouth of the river you travel, lies unexplored oceans of possibility. Waiting just for you.

- Karen M. Black, Toronto
MBA, author and karmic astrologer
Moondance: an addictive spin on life, love and the nature of reality
www.karenmblack.com

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